Before you embark on any adventure, building or joining the right team is the foundation for success.

Reflecting on my past, I’ve come to realize that, just as there are plants and bugs that harm their environment, there are people who exhibit toxic behaviours. I’ve learned that I can’t always judge or point the finger; from 17yrs to 33yrs I was extremely Toxic, as were those I surrounded myself with.

Instead, I must accept these challenges and confront them head-on with a clear mind and a steady heart.

Whenever I embark on an adventure—whether it’s an extreme challenge or a more everyday experience—it’s essential that I can trust and rely on those around me. Everyone in the team needs to feel assured that we stand together, shoulder to shoulder; facing whatever comes our way with confidence.

Toxic dynamics, however, can create emotional, psychological, and even physical harm. They breed an environment that drags everyone down, clouding the team’s collective energy and spirit. In settings where safety and survival are on the line, a single toxic individual can bring about significant, even dangerous, challenges.

I’ve learned that recognizing and addressing toxicity is not just important—it’s essential. Whether in a team or a relationship, confronting this behavior head-on is crucial for fostering healthier, more positive environments where everyone can thrive.

As someone who has often taken on leadership roles, I understand the weight my words carry. I know that being both kind and firm when addressing toxicity is key. It’s not always easy, but it’s necessary to set the tone for the kind of environment I want to create: one that is rooted in mutual respect, trust, and the ability to grow together as a team.

Whether it’s trekking, rowing, climbing, or any other adventure, I’ve found that one of the most effective and straightforward ways to build a strong team is to enjoy a few training days together. These shared experiences not only help us bond but also allow us to understand each other’s strengths, weaknesses, and communication styles. Spending that extra time training as a group builds trust and creates a solid foundation for any challenge we face.

Here are some characteristics of toxic dynamics that can upset Team Spirit and undermine an Adventure:

One or more individuals use manipulation, coercion, or control tactics to dominate others. This can manifest as gaslighting (making someone doubt their reality), emotional blackmail, or threats.

In toxic dynamics, boundaries are often disregarded, and there’s a lack of mutual respect. This can lead to overstepping personal space.

In toxic relationships or environments, individuals often face excessive criticism, belittling, or being blamed for things beyond their control.

Toxic dynamics often include indirect hostility, such as giving silent treatment, backhanded compliments, or undermining someone’s efforts without directly addressing conflicts.

Individuals involved in toxic dynamics may refuse to take responsibility for their actions or blame others for their mistakes.

Toxic dynamics often involve frequent arguments, conflicts, or drama, creating a turbulent environment. This can make individuals feel anxious or constantly on edge.